It’s not just a guy thing
As Valentine’s Day approaches, a topic that comes up frequently came to mind: emotional unavailability. But, it’s not just men. Many women who accuse a partner of being unavailable are just as unavailable, otherwise she wouldn’t have picked him (or her).
Is it a choice?
This idea of “choosing” trips up clients sometimes. “Is it MY fault!?” Of course, it isn’t your intention to be attracted to and choose unavailable. People do it because it is their survival programming. It protects them. You’ve heard me quote Dr. Bob Scaer before: When we sabotage, it’s not psychological, it’s physiological. If your fear is availability, then you might look for some guarantee that a man or woman is not all in. Unavailability feels safe and comfortable, because it’s what you’ve known. Read More→